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5 Questions to Happiness

When was the last time that you could say that you were completely happy with your life (or day?) Happy as defined on http://www.merriam-webster.com/: being happy is feeling pleasure and enjoyment because of your life, situation, etc. showing or causing feelings of pleasure and enjoyment or pleased or glad about a particular situation, event, etc.

Sometimes it’s hard to say we are truly happy. If I had to guess, genuine happiness is hard to find in a great number of the population. Being wife for 8 years, and mom for 2 does not make me an expert in the art of life happiness. However, I have a very wise Gram that (always) says life is what you make it.

So… Every time I start to get overwhelmed or unhappy with my situation (which happens often, I’m human you know), I have to stop and ask myself.

  1. Is this something I can control ?
    Chances are the answer is No, we human’s tend to get worked up over things that we in fact can’t do anything about. And anything we do to try to fix or stop our problem isn’t going to help or hurry our issue out of our beings. So you can move on, forget it and be happy.
  2. Is this something that is REALLY important ?
    Really, Really? Is it really important that your floors shine or there isn’t dust on that corner shelf in the dark when company comes over. If you want true happiness with in your life here’s my advice. Stop worrying about what other people think and start forming relationships with people just because they are who they are and you are who you are. People and good relationships make us happier people, not a clean house. So you can move on, forget it and be happy.
  3. Is this going to matter next week (or in 5 years) ?
    My mom used to ask me this, or forms of this in high school. Oh my so & so said this about me or I did this and then than happened. Yada Yada Yada, it’s all details that everyone’s going to forget come the next epic failure of mankind. There is really no point in worrying about this matter either. So you can move on, forget it and be happy.
  4. Is this really going to be worth it, or are you going to wake up with (more) regrets {in the morning} ?
    I remember, (not that long ago), when I would stay up till the wee hours of the morning cleaning and organizing my butt off just to have a perfect house or perfect recipe or perfect whatever, and everything would be just ‘PERFECT’ for the next day… Guess what ? NOTHING about your day is perfect when you stay up till 3 am and have to be up at 6:30/7 am, absolutely nothing.
    So here you are (and there I was), with another regret to live with. If you can’t live with just dealing with that never-ending (anyway) list in the morning without regrets then chances are there are bigger issues than what this blog post can deal with right now. {JK} Anyway, move on [got to bed], forget it and be happy.
    {Okay and I’m going to throw a little (more) mars in this post !!! Shhh don’t tell my mom, but this regret thing also goes for having fun/getting a little drunk (As some human’s do from time to time). If you wouldn’t do it when your sober why would you want to do it drunk? Life changing accidents happen when people are being stupid.}
  5. Is what you’re doing going to benefit your family/self ?
    This one is so complex I could probably type for an hour and not be done, but I will make it short and you can conclude for yourself what you may. Have you ever found yourself bending over backwards for something or someone that really isn’t appreciating it, or even worse just doing something that unwillingly is hindering your family life. You may or may not be able to change some of these things, but if you have the time and liberty to make a decision to only do the things that benefit you and your family to the best, (mentally, spiritually, physically, financially, etc) please do so and I promise you will be happier for it.

I know complete happiness is few and far between, but maybe you can start with a few good hours and build up to a good day, then a good week and who knows you might have a good month.

Thanks for stopping by today, I hope you enjoyed my manners and mars thoughts of the day !!

Proverbs 15:13-A happy heart makes the face cheerful,
but heartache crushes the spirit.

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#PraiseGod#365

Life has been really busy lately, and I love it, but it hasn’t gave me time to write the blogs that I would like…. sorry about that !!

So… Here’s my thought ! It’s January 11th, only six short weeks ago we were celebrating Thanksgiving. A month were even your most criminal of people post everyday what they are thankful for. I myself fell into the trap of updating my Facebook status of what exactly I was thankful for. Knowing that I was actually thankful for those things made me warmhearted.

As I was shopping with my son today, I found my mind wondering, what am I thankful for today? Surely it’s not just Thanksgiving that I would be thankful, yeah No ! The answer is No ! Truly, I’m thankful for God’s mercy and grace on a daily basis, I’m thankful for my friends and family God has placed in my life for one reason or another and so much more.

Even when we are in our lowest of lows we need to find our joy in God. Recently I was challenged by a conflict within a group of Christian women. You know what they say ‘we women are drama queen’s.’ Anyway I found myself running from God (and that’s kind of hard for me to say, so I hope your not taking me lightly here), when I told my Pastor about what I had been feeling, he laughed. His response was, “…you know, I bet a lot of the others were doing the same thing.” Right then I realized that we were all letting the devil win, we have to decide to be free from sin even when we are living right in the midst of a sinful & problematic situation. Maybe you don’t like all your past actions or reactions. I myself live with a lot of regrets from the past, (and I’m working on forgiving myself). It’s harder than one might think.

Now even though the situation with the women is not well, or fixed in a shape that is pleasing to me & some of the other women & God, I know that God’s hands are on it. Though the devil got things stirred up I have faith that God will bring all the women involved to victory.

Philippians 4
New International Version (NIV)

Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.

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For Your Amusement (Day 8)

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Pictured above is the aftermath of the funniest moment of my day. The doorbell rings (our neighbor), the dog barks, Emmett runs, screams, and lops himself over the arm of the couch, and (wait for it)…. The huge bowl of popcorn goes flying. I answered the door laughing 🙂

I have to say I love my life and this little man I get to spend my days with. He keeps me busy and laughing. And its moments like this that help me remember I am blessed.

{did I mention this room was cleaned last night before bed?}

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Whole Wheat Pancakes (Day 7)

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I always struggle with what to make for dinner when it’s just Emmett and I, which is most of the time. I often go for simple Bisquick pancakes and E loves pancakes. I have been hunting excuses to use my Kitchen Aide Mixer, so I thought I would try a new recipe, one that was just a little healthier than the box mix. At only 87 calories per serving maybe I should say a lot.

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Ingredients

2 cups whole wheat flour
2 teaspoons baking powder
1 teaspoon salt
2 eggs, well beaten
2 cups milk
2 tablespoons vegetable oil

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Directions

Stir together dry ingredients.
Add eggs, milk, and oil.
Stir until dry ingredients are moistened (batter maybe lumpy). Add water (or milk) as needed.

Cook on preheated griddle until bubbles form and edges start to dry. Flip and cook until lightly browned.

Emmett of course loved them, and I was surprised to find that they were in fact 100% better than any pancake I’ve tasted to date. These will definitely be a keeper in our house, though next time I think I will see if I can get them to be thinner. I am looking forward to using my Kitchen Aide many times this week and might even try a whole wheat waffle recipe. Check out my old post on making waffles in bulk.

(Clearly, you don’t need a mixer for this recipe. I just wanted to break it in easy).

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28 Days to 28 Years (Day 6)

THIS WEEK:

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I can’t believe Alex is ALREADY FIVE. It seems like we welcomed him to our family last year.

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The time changed really messed with Emmett’s nap routine. Our normal was between 3 & 4 pm, sleeping the evening away, followed by a late bed time. I was about ready to throw in the towel but tried some new tricks and this week has been an after lunch (12:30/1:30) nap time. And they are lasting a normal toddler resting period. I can’t tell you how much this excites me.

20140107-145404.jpg Yesterday, I finally finished the kitchen organization. I had originally purchased this contact paper for my new kitchen island but instead decided to use it to refinish under the sink. I really like how it freshened the space, the wood was in desperate need of something.

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It’s cold just about everywhere (except Hawii), this week, our house is no different. I wish my husband were home so I could go out and take some more snow covered pictures.
Emmett & Jake pictured above are actually laying on my feet. A very rare occurance for me to lay or sit down during the day, but desperate temperatures call for desperate measures.

I have used heavy blankets and towels to cover all of our doors and windows. And am praying our pipes do not freeze.

I hope your staying warm this week. Feel free to comment your ideas on keeping busy and warm on weeks like this !! Thanks for stopping by today.
Until tomorrow, friends.

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28 Days to 28 Years (Day 4&5)

I didn’t post yesterday for two reasons: 1: I was only home for about an hour and in that time I was working on organizing more of my kitchen & 2: I was in a bad mood emotionally. I had so much that I knew I was going to say and none of it was made for the outside world. I have made it back to reality today and things are looking up.

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Though not literary. The snow and temperature are sure falling these days. Black ice, 30 degree drops in temperature and freezing wind chills. It was easy to stay in and finish organizing the kitchen today.

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Note there are rewards right handy in the bathroom. We are thinking potty training might be a go being that we are stuck inside anyway.
JellyBellys for pee potty and dum dums for po po potty.
Fingers crossed.

I can finally say (after 6 years), that I’m finally happy with my kitchen. The goal was to make it user friendly and have more food storage/counter space. And I have accomplished that well.

I’m going to try it out tomorrow with a new cookie recipe I found today.

My next organization project ? The master bedroom.

Thanks for stopping by.
Until Tomorrow !!

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28 Days to 28 Years (Day 3)

Saturdays are so unpredictable in this house. Okay, what am I saying… Everyday in this house is unpredictable. But today was particularly off the wall. Picture being everywhere and nowhere at the same time and that was today.

So for today’s post I’m simply going to share a few lessons and tidbits of my day via pictures. 🙂

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Happy Saturday Everyone !!

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28 Days to 28 Years (Day 2)

Today’s goal was to finish the kitchen. Yeah that didn’t happen, not because I didn’t want to, but I was forced to fix the living room & dining room. I just couldn’t picture it all and I thought it be best to have the big stuff in place and happy before messing with all the little stuff. 🙂

I left the day feeling somewhat productive but overwhelmed for what tomorrow has in store. Lets just hope I’m happy with the kitchen when I’m done.

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^ living room looking towards dining & kitchen
There aren’t any now but I’m sure there will be toys on the empty shelves and in the door 🙂

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This is probably my new favorite thing about our living room. The ottoman was used for videos and the shelves as my bed side table. (Stay tuned for a new one).

I feel very disorganized when there are 400 toys everywhere so using the ottoman is welcomed.

I debated with myself a lot today and and did some looking online. I was going to order a room divider (shelf). Also had a thought of mounting the tv and components to the wall but all of these ideas have passed.

Thank God.

If my husband were judgmental he would say ‘good you just saved me $200’ but he’s not so I’ll just be thankful for that fact.

My goals for tomorrow include:

Pay Bills
Finish kitchen
Possibly bring some food up from basement
Sweep & Scrub all floors

Hope everyone has a great weekend.
Until tomorrow…

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28 Days to 28 Years

I cannot believe I’m saying this but I actually feel like an adult now. It’s a little embarrassing admitting that, being that I will be an adult for ten years in 28 short days. To celebrate my birthday, embrace life and this new year; I’ve decided to take a stab at writing a blog post everyday this month.

My number one goal this month is to be 100% organized (within my house). That’s a little unrealistic, so I’m taking it day by day, month by month. Stay tuned for future posts on my goals, organization projects and tactics, and probably failures. Cause let’s face it I’m human too.

(Even though it’s really super fun to pretend we bloggers live in a perfect world… The reality is our houses are a mess, we have had failed recipes and relationships and our plans don’t always go, well as planned).

So… Today I decided to START tackling my kitchen & dining room areas. A few months back I decided to create a dining room out of a portion of the living room. I love that we don’t have a table in our kitchen, but there has been a few snags in the system since. So making the dining room appear and feel like a dining room and the kitchen more functional and lovable is a must before adulthood really sets in.

I really did a bad job at taking before pictures today so bare with me.

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This is the main reason why my kitchen is dysfunctional. Most (and by most I mean over 75%) of our food is stored in our basement pantry. I just don’t have it organized to be user friendly just yet. But as I get closer to being an adult I have the urge to cook and even bake and decorate more.

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These shelves are above my kitchen sink and (again I forgot to take the before) I had candles and pictures on two of these but my kitchen is done in wine and grapes so I added our wine glasses. Yes they are ones we use but its so rare they might as well be a useful decoration, right ?

Don’t mind the old yellow curtains. I’ve bought wine/grape material to make new ones, something that I would of liked to have had done for the holidays. Next months project ?!?!

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I was rather proud of myself today. I managed to successfully assemble TWO items today. One being this bamboo corner shelf (which I’m excited for the possibilities). The other a coat stand that I decided to add to the kitchen. This all in effort to have a non-cluttered house. Fingers crossed.

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More decorating / organizing. Emmett might have something going there as well.

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Our ‘dining room’ hutch. To replace the space where the Christmas tree was. 🙂

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This was the quickest project of the day. Now it won’t seem like we have to walk a green mile just for a drink. (Okay I’m stretching it a little there).

Not bad for Day 1. I feel rather productive and can’t wait to see what I can get into tomorrow.

At what age did you feel like an adult ?

Do you feel as disorganized as I do ?

I would love to hear from you.
Thanks for stopping in today.
Until Tomorrow…

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Ending 2013

December 2013 has flown by. It’s hard to believe everything we have been through and experienced this year.

The year has been interesting but the weather seems just as interesting.

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It’s been raining, 40 degrees (& hot) and now it’s snowing.

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After much procrastination and thought I finally got my hair done right. Of course with the help of my husband. I don’t feel like it needs done anymore.

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I got a toy this year from my future brother in law, Joe. It’s a noise maker that aids you to fall a sleep. Let me tell you it definitely works.

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Sunday we went for a special day out with Emmett’s Aunt Amy & Uncle Joe. It was pretty cool sitting as a family in the back seat. 🙂

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Yesterday E & I made a trip to the local Walmart to return some wrong sized vacuum bags. While there Emmett was so well behaved I thought I had the wrong child. I think he’s growing up nicely. He did enjoy playing with my phone, he loves taking self portraits.

I’m ready for 2014 to be more organized. So for every room I have thought of a small organization idea. This shelf is for our big bathroom. With potty training quickly approaching I needed some shelves (that’s at least what I’m telling myself).

My big New Years resolution (for the the last several years) has been to be more organized. Now that we have a two year old added to the mix that goal is slightly hard to obtain. So I’ve changed it a little, I would like to be more organized than the year before.
Here’s to being more realistic as well.

Looking ahead to 2014:

+ Potty Training
+ My sister graduating college
+ Summer road trip to visit friends and many toddler friendly activities
+ Camping (A lot)
+ Expanding my crafting talents and sales
+ Possibly getting a few more cleaning clients
+ My Baby Sister turns 21 😦
+ Planning a fall Bridal Shower
+ The Wedding 🙂
+ Emmett turns 3 😦
+ Santa’s sending a magical elf to spy on Emmett

Happy New Years (Eve) Everyone.

I’m off to organize & get this tree down. (I don’t like starting the new year with Christmas decorations).

What are you looking forward to in 2014 ?

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