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Present Day Adventures = {PDA}

This week has gone extremely fast. My husband and I actually had a little disagreement about how many days there are until my birthday. I was thinking I had more time, so sadly, he won. Doesn’t yesterday feel like Friday ?? Just me. Okay…

Maybe it was because Steven stayed home from work Sunday. He desired some extra Emmett time.

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I had some work to do in the basement and this is what I came up to. I couldn’t resist the photo.

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I knew with the upcoming weather change if we wanted any safe outside time that Monday was the best day. Emmett enjoyed sledding in 30 degree weather and I enjoyed the workout of pulling him up and down the hill.

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Since the cold, as promised, showed up we baked on Tuesday. Emmett was pretty good at helping with the ingredients. Recipe to be shared later this week. {My moms ‘ol with a spice of my own touch} 🙂

As a SAHM (and everyone out there knows this) sometimes it’s easy to let ourselves go. By this I mean: getting dressed means putting a bra on and new comfy pants and pulling your hair up on top of your head in a gum band. It’s not that hard to fall into this rut.

Lately I’ve been thinking I wouldn’t be attracted to myself if I were my husband…So (I know it’s not much), I decided to put a little effort and spin on my look for when the hubby’s coming home from work.

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Yes it’s a simple pony-twitted to the side with a clip. But it has inspired a somewhat nicer {simple} up do look for in public. {this picture has no justice either}

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Easiest frozen treat ever. Apply whipped cream to half of a gram cracker place the other half on top and place in a sealed container in the freezer. Quick, yummy & (if you use the right ingredients) healthy. My boys love them.

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Finally today we went on a family date, out to lunch and grocery shopping. Steven and I voted (he won) we weren’t on a time schedule to get out the door. So before leaving I was able to cut both of their hair, and straighten mine. It takes awhile. But I’m pleased to see how well the cut (by yours truly) still looks and it might actually be growing this month.

Only 9 more months until my sisters wedding… In which my hair must be long to be beautifully done up.

Thanks for stopping by today. Until next time.

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Reasons I <3 Being a SAHM

March 1st 2011, I held our first positive pregnancy test. I remember laying in bed that morning just knowing that I was in fact expecting. I had been charting my temp’s for several weeks and I had stayed high for several days, I just had that “I’m pregnant” feeling. Sure enough I was…. running through the house screaming was what woke my hubby….

…then we went on our marry way, it was Tuesday, so I went to my TOPS meeting. Sitting right beside my Aunt Dee was the hardest thing I had to do that day. I felt like I could burst with excitement, but I did well keeping it cool.

Did you catch my posts from Monday and Tuesday to see how we got to this point ?

(Two years later,) I think being a SAHM (stay-at-home-mom) is the absolute best job anyone could have.

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Staying home with Emmett means my #1 concern is him and his happiness and my second is keeping our house running. Often times I end up busier than people that have full time jobs.

I would like to give you MY top 3 reasons I love being a SAHM. (By the way), I didn’t know what a SAHM was until I was pregnant and was researching and reading forms, blogs and medical articals on sites like this and this. So don’t feel bad…

Everyday is a new adventure

As a SAHM, you really don’t know what your going to wake up to. First off how you feel doesn’t matter so much as does how your child feels. If Emmett wakes up laughing and playing I know today’s going to be a great day (within like 5 minutes). If he wakes up whinnying and cranking around, there may or may not be a more challenging day ahead. No matter what my day has in store for me, I know that it will be an adventure simply because this world we live in is a child’s playground. How can you not love watching your child learn, play and grow.

Nothing else matters

Unlike my husband, I don’t have to listen to my boss’s (blah blah blah) orders and fulfill his every need. If it’s a cuddle that Emmett wants it a cuddle he shall get. Please don’t think I just sit on the couch all day and cuddle with my child, though that would be nice. What I’m trying to say is, no matter what you do all day long as a SAHM if you loved, and cared for your child you’ve done the most important thing you could of done with your day. End of story, no flack from the boss, just whatever matters that day.

Everything is fixed with love

I’m the sole care provider for my little one and I know that in fact he is held when he wants to be and love all day long…. There’s nothing like mother’s love that makes anything & everything better.

This afternoon at lunch, Emmett bit his tongue. You know the feeling the pain, there’s nothing you can do about it and you just want it so stop ASAP… Crying he got down off his chair and wanted me to pick him up. I did hugged and kissed him, told him that he was going to be just fine and he stopped crying, went back to his chair and finished eating. He was all better just knowing that I loved him and was there for him. Just one of the many joys that inspired this post. 🙂

No matter what anyone says: being a SAHM, isn’t the easiest (or most talked about) job in the world but it is the most REWARDING.

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Thanks for stopping by today, until next time.


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Throwback Thursday

Throwback Thursday

I miss waking up to this little thumb sucker !!!

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28 Days to 28 Years (Day 14)

This has been my last 24 hours.

    F. E. V. E. R
    Feeling
    Ever
    Very
    Ehh
    Right (now)

Praising God Emmett is well 🙂

Tomorrows post will be more exciting 😉

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Homemade Baby Wipes

If you’ve known my son for more than five minutes you know he is half ginger. (My sister actually called him ginger for a few months). I’ve never met anyone with such sensitive skin. Day one home from the hospital we had every cream known to man in his changing station, nothing really (ever) worked.

My good friend and neighbor growing up suggested to make our own wipes to help with our problem. Knowing what we know now we should of just kept doing that indefinitely.

I do believe our little guy is allergic to methylisothiazolinone (MI), a chemical found in commercially manufactured diaper wipes. After doing a little of my own research, I was actually quite concerned with many products I purchase for our family. Click here to read the original study that prompted my digging. One article said methylisothiazolinone is used to desensitized skin, REALLY ?

    Homemade wipes are so easy to make and gentle on the skin.

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      Ingredients:

1/8-1/4 cup baby oil
1/8-1/4 cup baby shampoo
2 cups warms water
1 soft (I use Viva) roll of paper towel
1 container at least half the size of the roll with a lid that fastens tightly

Instructions:
Using a sharp knife, cut the paper towel roll in half and remove the center.
Add liquid to container and place half roll in. Secure lid and flip upside-down for at least 15 minutes.

A once screaming, rolling all around two year old was breathing with the sound of relief upon a bottom cleaning.
I guarantee you and your baby will be happier, healthier and just a little richer.
Not only are paper towels better and softer they are less expensive than regular wipes.

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how we got here (part 2)

November 19, 2005 we said “I do,” took a few days off work, had a good time and changed my name. Steven ended up quitting his job to finish out training for the Navy. He went to the gym twice a day and ate only salads, with only 5 lbs, to go he should of been fine, but it was a struggle. I guess he took this as a sign because he told me we has going to the gym and when he came home he said, “I’m not going to the Navy.”

The next day he applied at the company that he currently resides and most days is happy with his choice.

In 2009 my husband and I decided it would be best if I started working/staying at home. We came to that conclusion with many factors but the most important one, we needed to save our family, which was essentially our marriage. November 19, 2008 was our 3 year anniversary; and we really didn’t know or see each other what so ever. I believe we saw each other for a handful of hours over the span of 3 days, the WHOLE month of November.

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THIS WAS US !

Needless to say neither of us were very happy. So I took a leave from work to see how it would go, and we ended up happy with what life was going to look like. January 2009, I met with my boss and explained I wouldn’t be returning from my leave. Though it was sad and I still miss my clients and friends from work, I wouldn’t change it for the world.

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how we got here

May 18, 2001 my husband (Steven) 1st boyfriend, and I went on our first date. It was a pretty simple being that times were simple then. We went to Ponderosa, I didn’t eat but one plate, because I was nervous as all get out. {Ponderosa is my husbands ‘go-to’ restaurant in present day.}

We broke-up a year later.

June 2004, I graduated high school, and started Cosmetology school 11 days later. Cosmetology school went really fast, I worked two jobs and came home as much as I could. Especially when I needed to do laundry, the ‘laundry mat’ wasn’t my favorite place in the city. Steven and I continued to talk as much as we could, I knew he still liked me but wasn’t really sold I wanted to be with anyone at the time.

June 2005, I graduated Cosmetology school and moved back in to my parents house. Knowing it would be temporary I hurried up and landed a job in my field and a second part-time job working at a local convenience store, {Sheetz}. I worked everyday most weeks. But found myself hanging out with friends in my spare time, and Steven ended up being one of those friends.

He was enlisted to leave for the Navy Basic Training the next spring. We both wanted some freedom, and lets face it living with your parent’s and kid sibling isn’t the best deal when your an adult on your own schedule. July 19, 2005 we moved in to an apartment in a small town about 40 minutes from home. {Keep in mind we did this as friends.} Knowing that he as going to the Navy in months I knew that I needed to figure out how to pay for the apartment and be a big girl on my own, that’s what we did.

However, that’s not what ended up happening. Before Steven left for the Navy he asked me to marry him, yes marry, I was rolling around the idea that I may like/love him and was in some strange form of denial. And he asked me to marry him… I said Yes ! We told my parents right away, my dad wanted to know how many people we were going to invite to the wedding right away. LOL. When we told Steven’s parents, his Dad wanted to know if I was going to color my hair before the wedding. (It was a chilly red, yes that’s what I color tube at the salon I worked at said). I said that I was in fact planning on getting married with somewhat more of a natural looking color.

We sold Steven’s truck and planned a wedding in 6 short weeks. This included my mom making ALL the dresses. She’s good !

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5 Questions to Happiness

When was the last time that you could say that you were completely happy with your life (or day?) Happy as defined on http://www.merriam-webster.com/: being happy is feeling pleasure and enjoyment because of your life, situation, etc. showing or causing feelings of pleasure and enjoyment or pleased or glad about a particular situation, event, etc.

Sometimes it’s hard to say we are truly happy. If I had to guess, genuine happiness is hard to find in a great number of the population. Being wife for 8 years, and mom for 2 does not make me an expert in the art of life happiness. However, I have a very wise Gram that (always) says life is what you make it.

So… Every time I start to get overwhelmed or unhappy with my situation (which happens often, I’m human you know), I have to stop and ask myself.

  1. Is this something I can control ?
    Chances are the answer is No, we human’s tend to get worked up over things that we in fact can’t do anything about. And anything we do to try to fix or stop our problem isn’t going to help or hurry our issue out of our beings. So you can move on, forget it and be happy.
  2. Is this something that is REALLY important ?
    Really, Really? Is it really important that your floors shine or there isn’t dust on that corner shelf in the dark when company comes over. If you want true happiness with in your life here’s my advice. Stop worrying about what other people think and start forming relationships with people just because they are who they are and you are who you are. People and good relationships make us happier people, not a clean house. So you can move on, forget it and be happy.
  3. Is this going to matter next week (or in 5 years) ?
    My mom used to ask me this, or forms of this in high school. Oh my so & so said this about me or I did this and then than happened. Yada Yada Yada, it’s all details that everyone’s going to forget come the next epic failure of mankind. There is really no point in worrying about this matter either. So you can move on, forget it and be happy.
  4. Is this really going to be worth it, or are you going to wake up with (more) regrets {in the morning} ?
    I remember, (not that long ago), when I would stay up till the wee hours of the morning cleaning and organizing my butt off just to have a perfect house or perfect recipe or perfect whatever, and everything would be just ‘PERFECT’ for the next day… Guess what ? NOTHING about your day is perfect when you stay up till 3 am and have to be up at 6:30/7 am, absolutely nothing.
    So here you are (and there I was), with another regret to live with. If you can’t live with just dealing with that never-ending (anyway) list in the morning without regrets then chances are there are bigger issues than what this blog post can deal with right now. {JK} Anyway, move on [got to bed], forget it and be happy.
    {Okay and I’m going to throw a little (more) mars in this post !!! Shhh don’t tell my mom, but this regret thing also goes for having fun/getting a little drunk (As some human’s do from time to time). If you wouldn’t do it when your sober why would you want to do it drunk? Life changing accidents happen when people are being stupid.}
  5. Is what you’re doing going to benefit your family/self ?
    This one is so complex I could probably type for an hour and not be done, but I will make it short and you can conclude for yourself what you may. Have you ever found yourself bending over backwards for something or someone that really isn’t appreciating it, or even worse just doing something that unwillingly is hindering your family life. You may or may not be able to change some of these things, but if you have the time and liberty to make a decision to only do the things that benefit you and your family to the best, (mentally, spiritually, physically, financially, etc) please do so and I promise you will be happier for it.

I know complete happiness is few and far between, but maybe you can start with a few good hours and build up to a good day, then a good week and who knows you might have a good month.

Thanks for stopping by today, I hope you enjoyed my manners and mars thoughts of the day !!

Proverbs 15:13-A happy heart makes the face cheerful,
but heartache crushes the spirit.

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#PraiseGod#365

Life has been really busy lately, and I love it, but it hasn’t gave me time to write the blogs that I would like…. sorry about that !!

So… Here’s my thought ! It’s January 11th, only six short weeks ago we were celebrating Thanksgiving. A month were even your most criminal of people post everyday what they are thankful for. I myself fell into the trap of updating my Facebook status of what exactly I was thankful for. Knowing that I was actually thankful for those things made me warmhearted.

As I was shopping with my son today, I found my mind wondering, what am I thankful for today? Surely it’s not just Thanksgiving that I would be thankful, yeah No ! The answer is No ! Truly, I’m thankful for God’s mercy and grace on a daily basis, I’m thankful for my friends and family God has placed in my life for one reason or another and so much more.

Even when we are in our lowest of lows we need to find our joy in God. Recently I was challenged by a conflict within a group of Christian women. You know what they say ‘we women are drama queen’s.’ Anyway I found myself running from God (and that’s kind of hard for me to say, so I hope your not taking me lightly here), when I told my Pastor about what I had been feeling, he laughed. His response was, “…you know, I bet a lot of the others were doing the same thing.” Right then I realized that we were all letting the devil win, we have to decide to be free from sin even when we are living right in the midst of a sinful & problematic situation. Maybe you don’t like all your past actions or reactions. I myself live with a lot of regrets from the past, (and I’m working on forgiving myself). It’s harder than one might think.

Now even though the situation with the women is not well, or fixed in a shape that is pleasing to me & some of the other women & God, I know that God’s hands are on it. Though the devil got things stirred up I have faith that God will bring all the women involved to victory.

Philippians 4
New International Version (NIV)

Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.

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For Your Amusement (Day 8)

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Pictured above is the aftermath of the funniest moment of my day. The doorbell rings (our neighbor), the dog barks, Emmett runs, screams, and lops himself over the arm of the couch, and (wait for it)…. The huge bowl of popcorn goes flying. I answered the door laughing 🙂

I have to say I love my life and this little man I get to spend my days with. He keeps me busy and laughing. And its moments like this that help me remember I am blessed.

{did I mention this room was cleaned last night before bed?}

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